I've been doing a lot of reading about habits the past week, sort of by accident. I ordered two books (one audio & one hard copy) because as I'm sure you're not surprised, I can't read one book at a time. Both are going to an extensive length to stress the importance of habits; for daily life and creative life.
I can't say if it didn't happen to rain at 6 PM today, I would be sitting here writing this, because I'm sure I would be out in the garden or playing outside. As you can see the habit hasn't formed quite yet.
Habit: In simplest terms possible: something that you do so often and regularly
When most think of the word habit, they think of the negative habits they or someone they love has. Of course letting go of bad habits is important to make space for the good, but the creating of good habits is just as important.
So how does one start? Well, I am learning it's as simple as that first cigarette you have at the park swing set, except it probably won't make your head spin or make you want to throw up. Even if it does, still do it. The key is to do it enough times, that it becomes part of your subconscious. Choose your good habits as often as you find yourself nibbling on that fingernail without thinking about it.
Find something that will make you show up everyday. Routine helps, but as a caregiver allow me to remind you, an unrealistic routine can backfire. Too many things happen here for me to get into a routine of "I must do this, at this same time," because that one time Steve's up and needs me during my routine and I crumble, snap, pop, and break down to no longer having one; just doesn't work.
So to help me work to stick this habit, it isn't I show up at 7 AM every morning and write; it's I will find the space of time to sit at that desk and write something ANYTIME today, even if it's just a paragraph. There now a realistic goal I can keep enough to help form the habit.
So here it is, me learning how to form a healthy habit, in front of everyone. You're welcome. <3